Group Game – Forced Dilemmas

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This game involves forcing the participants in making a choice when neither one is attractive or involves some metaphorical interpretation.  The object is to put the participants on the horns of a dilemma or between a rock and a hard place

Participants are pushed to not say neither one or to interpret the choice so that  one would include the other so as to soften the dilemma. The object is to struggle with an either-or choice.


Index cards and writing utensils

Number of Players:

Any number of players would work, is preferable in small groups though (5-7)

Game Instruction:

The leader reads a dilemma. (These can be chosen before hand, or written by the players)

Each player thinks about the choice than writes down on the card followed by three good reasons why.

Any reason is acceptable except ‘I don’t know’, ‘just because’, or any non good answer.

Once everyone has finished the leader takes the cards shuffles them, and redistributes them making sure than a person does not receive their own card back.

Each player reads the card out loud.

After all players have read their cards out loud they then tries to guess who it came from.

If they are right they get a point, no points are lost if they are wrong.

Once a player gets three points they win.

Group variant:

This game is played with two teams.

Each team gives a dilemma to the other team and secretly writes down their prediction.

The other team after discussion decides on their choice.

If the first team correct predicts the choice they receive a point and if the team incorrectly predicts the answering team receives a point.

The teams then change roles.

The game continues until a team receives ten points.


Would you rather be rich or famous?

Would you rather ride a roller coaster or a mechanical bull?

Would you rather have the power to fly or the power to disappear?

Would you rather be a baby again or seventy years old?

Would you rather be 7’6″ or 4’2″?

Would you rather be gossiped about or lied to?

Would you rather have a life of good memories or a life full of exciting adventures you couldn’t remember?

Would you rather have no values or have no friends?

Would you rather try everything and succeed at nothing or try only one thing and succeed?

Would you rather be convicted of something you didn’t do or see someone else convicted for something you did?

Would you rather… During an avalanche, be in a cabin that gets hit broadside at the base of a mountain or be in a large, sturdy, wooden barrel tumbling down the mountain with the snow?

Would you rather… Do a job well and be grossly underpaid or do a job poorly and be paid so much it feels like stealing?

Would you rather… See every movie in slow motion or at double speed?

Would you rather… Be really smart and really boring or really dumb and entertaining?

Would you rather… Have the theme song of your choice play whenever you walk or have your own mood lighting wherever you are?

Would you rather…Live in a world where each word you say costs you one cent or where each step you take costs ten cents?

Would you rather… Have a nose that glows red when you get excited or have steam come out of your ears when you get mad?

Would you rather… Stranded on a deserted island or live your life in a bubble?

Would you rather… Go back in time and give your younger self advice that will change your life or go into the future and find out what you will encounter in years to come?

Would you rather… Discover a cure for cancer or the fountain of youth?

Would you rather… Have everything you say and do revealed publicly or live in total obscurity like a hermit?

Would you rather… Lose your ability to remember or to anticipate?

Would you rather… Lose your ability to speak or move for one year?

Would you rather… Know all but be bitter or know nothing and be optimistic?

Would you rather… Always succumb to peer pressure or have not one ever like you?

For more question try Zobmondo, Qrazy Quandaries, search online for the term ‘ would you rather’ or any of that sort, or just make up your own.

Debriefing Topics:

What made the choice hard?

What was it like reading someone’s reasons that were not your own?

How did people know or how did they not know what the person/group was going to say?


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